I was going to continue talking about referrals in this post but I have big questions about office space! Last week I applied for a few new office spaces in Diamond Bar (right at the edge of LA and Orange Counties) and I thought I’d share a bit of my thought process while I’m in the middle of it all.Continue reading Big questions about office space!
For this post, I tried thinking about how I’ve been getting referrals since starting my private practice in 2014. This thought exercise has inspired me to keep better track of my referral sources via spreadsheet. But for now, I have to rely on my best guesses from memory. I have some rough percentages to share with you:Continue reading How to get referrals (Part 1: Pastors)
What happens when we combine sex with substance use? Many report that the sexual experience is exponentially better than “normal” sex. It makes sense that once experiencing this combination, one would keep wanting to go back to it.
Andy Park (LMFT and Certified Multiple Addiction Therapist) and I discuss the appeal and tragedy of combining sex and drugs. Some of the topics and questions we cover:
- Why do substance addicts tend to also have a sex addiction?
- How do drugs spoil sexual experiences in the future?
- How much do substance addicts connect with their partners while high?
- Mistaking intensity for intimacy
- The haunting question for addicts: Why do I do what I do?
- How to provide treatment for someone who is addicted to both
- What sobriety feels like for someone committed to treatment
Listen to our conversation on Episode 14 of SA speakeasy!
I remember when my private practice supervisor in San Francisco told me, “You have to learn how to market yourself.” I wasn’t quite sure what she meant at the time. I was so used to intake coordinators assigning me clientsContinue reading The pros and cons of private practice
My name is Roy Kim, and I am a licensed marriage and family therapist in private practice in Southern California. I am on a quest to make more money. This quest is extremely important to me. It’s on my mind more than I like to admit.Continue reading Ride along with me!
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Tony Ramynke rejoins me to discuss the cost of sex addiction treatment. More importantly, we discuss the potential cost of NOT getting treatment. We also talk about the common occurrence of multiple factors underlying a sex addiction that need to be assessed and treated.
Some of the questions we address in this episode:
- Why isn’t sobriety the ultimate goal of sex addiction therapy?
- Can we be depressed and/or anxious and not know it?
- What’s the connection between sexually acting out and depression/anxiety?
- What is the monetary value of living shame-free and lie-free? Of being able to see your kids everyday?
Find Tony at www.yourtherapistanthony.com
Chris Williams (Licensed Marriage/Family Therapist & Co-Host of New Life Live) rejoins me to discuss how sex addiction is a form of emotional deafness.
Some of the topics we cover:
- Why ignoring our feelings is a mistake.
- How to experience love at a deeper level.
- Why many men struggle with anger management and empathy.
- What happens when we squash our children’s emotions.
- Porn during bad times, porn during good times.
- Why it’s hard to delight in simple pleasures and blessings.
Contact Chris at www.renovaricounseling.com
Keaton Kleiner (an LMHP in Omaha, Nebraska) and I discuss the difference between coping with life’s struggles in what he coins a “lazy versus intentional” way. We find that it’s important to know the difference because sex addicts can help themselves recover by learning intentional ways to cope with hardship.
Some of the topics we discuss:
- Why alcohol and pornography are some of the lazy skills
- Why even certain ways of “using God” can be lazy!
- Why masturbating leads to feelings of despair
- Why we end up substituting one addiction for another addiction
- How do we intentionally cope with life?
- One interesting intervention: Go ahead and view porn, but on one condition…
- How do people even get started being intentional when they have never learned how?
- The importance, and even the necessity, of group therapy
In Episode 10 of SA speakeasy, Grace Erickson and I discuss the significance of spirituality when treating sex addiction. Grace is currently one of the few, if not only, Catholic sex addiction therapists in the Seattle area. Some of the issues we talk about in this episode:
Can God love me even if I repeat sexual sins?
The high number of men who lack meaningful friendships.
The deep guilt and shame of sex addicts.
The amazing strengths of our clients.
The real hope that sex addicts have to become sexually healthy.
In Episode 9 of SA speakeasy, Bill Schuilenberg and I discuss the blueprint of sex addiction recovery. We make no bones about the length of the process and what it requires. We also revel in the true hope it offers for men and women who desperately want to overcome their sex addiction.
Some of the questions we discuss are:
Is sex addiction common?
What happens during the assessment portion of sex addiction therapy?
Why is the relationship between the therapist and the client so important?
What is one of the most difficult parts of sex addiction treatment?
How effective is group therapy?
How long does it take to overcome sex addiction?
Bill practices in Kelowna, British Columbia and his website is: https://www.wacs.ca