How to Prepare for a Formal Disclosure

Perhaps you have decided to disclose to your partner (or your partner has given you an ultimatum) the whole truth about your secret behaviors, so that your partner knows everything and does not need to keep searching for answers. How do you go about doing it in the most healthy and helpful way possible? Thankfully, … Read more How to Prepare for a Formal Disclosure

How Does a Quarantine Lockdown Affect Sex Addiction Recovery?

Dan Drake, the founder and director of Banyan Therapy Group, joins me to talk about COVID19 and its impact on the recovery path of sexual addicts and their traumatized partners.  Contact Dan at dan@banyantherapy.com, and visit his website: www.banyantherapy.com Contact Roy at roy@newlegacycounseling.com and visit his website: www.newlegacycounseling.com

Getting Great Emotional Connection During Online Therapy

One of the biggest criticisms of online therapy is the limited ability to emotionally connect with the client. Some reasons include the inability to detect body posturing, subtle voice inflections, the awkwardness of “radio silence” over video, etc. The Figure It Out method is a great way to overcome some challenges to online therapy and … Read more Getting Great Emotional Connection During Online Therapy

Surrogate Spouse, Surrogate Savior (Part 2)

The newest episode of The Same Boat is dedicated to my dad, the 80 year old fountain of youth 💪 Thank you for staying fit and relieving me of any burden of retiring you early.  Hatty Lee rejoins me to continue our discussion about parentified children. In this episode we cover topics such as: *The importance of … Read more Surrogate Spouse, Surrogate Savior (Part 2)

Surrogate Spouse, Surrogate Savior, Part 1

“You are not equipped to give your parents the love and care they needed and did not get from their own caregivers and partner,” says Hatty J. Lee, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Many of us have felt tremendous pressure to listen to our parents’ marital problems, to protect them from loneliness or worthless feelings, … Read more Surrogate Spouse, Surrogate Savior, Part 1

The Dating Advice No One Talks About

Tiger Woods. Amber Smith. Kanye. Bill Cosby. Lindsay Lohan. Seungri. Lamar Odom. Their sex addictions have made huge headlines and/or ruined lives. Chances are, you have someone in your circle as well who has a sex addiction. Various polls have shown that roughly 25% of females in the church self-report compulsive sexual behavior, and men … Read more The Dating Advice No One Talks About

Sex Addiction is an Intimacy Disorder

Chris Williams and I discuss the essential yet often frightening topic of intimacy in the latest episode of SA speakeasy. Some of the questions we cover: What are the pros and cons of allowing someone to know all of me? Would you rather be admired, or loved? What effect does social media have on intimacy? … Read more Sex Addiction is an Intimacy Disorder